During the summer of 2018, I finally read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. It had been sitting on my bookshelf for years, and then that summer it called to me. I read it and decided I wanted to implement it right away! And it was perfect timing because we were going to move out-of-state in a couple of months. Little did I know, that tidying was going to be so energetically healing. Here’s what happened:
As I tidied our home, the first few days felt tumultuous. I was turning our home upside down, and I began to feel the energy of all my things. There was excitement and fear, and when I had to stop tidying so I could sleep, I couldn’t stay asleep for long because I was so excited about continuing to work and declutter. My days of tidying were filled with laughter, tears, major nostalgia, and everything in between.
Here’s what I experienced:
As recommended I started with my clothes, then the books, and then my papers. It wasn’t too hard because like Miss Kondo says, we usually have little attachment too them. Then I moved onto komono which is Japanese for “small items” or accessories. Basically, these are all the random things that don’t fit into other categories outlined in Marie Kondo’s book. Going through all of this stuff was a lot of work, but I got through it. I was feeling really good as I was getting rid of all this old stuff I no longer needed, and, as predicted by Marie Kondo, I was getting really good at knowing what things sparked joy and then making the decision to let go of the rest. This was all in preparation for what Marie Kondo says is the hardest category of things to sift through and tidy: personal/sentimental items.
When I went through these items like old letters, keepsakes, photographs, etc., I felt so much appreciation and gratitude for the life that I had lived, but I also processed a lot of pain, because these items would take me back to moments where I felt afraid, sad, angry, guilty, embarrassed, and/or ashamed. We all have experiences that are traumatic in some way, and we all have experiences that cause us to doubt, fear, and/or betray who we really are. And remembering all that stuff, especially when it hasn’t been addressed, released, and healed, is really hard.
I knew that going through all this stuff was giving me an opportunity to process and heal those aspects of my past, as I often do in sessions with clients, and here are the steps I took to do that:
The first step I took was to acknowledge that I, like you, really did come to this planet, in this lifetime, to experience the full range of emotions. Joy, sadness, anger, enthusiasm, peace, worry, fear, love, all of it. That is life.
Second, I then had to love the parts of myself that felt hurt or wounded and needed healing, acknowledging that it was okay for me to have felt all those things. It’s okay for us to experience what we’ve been through, and it’s important that we offer love to the parts of ourselves that are still hurt. What this often looks like for me is taking a few deep breaths and visualizing myself in those hurt moments, and the present-me coming into those moments and being a support to the past me, hugging the past me, offering encouraging words and advice, etc. When it is an experience that is very traumatic, it helps to visualize your Higher Power coming in to love and comfort you as well.
The third thing I did was to set the intention to forgive and thank all those experiences, and all the people involved. This intention is powerful and allows you to free any parts of yourself that are still living in the past. Living in the present moment, and loving who we are right now, is how we tap into our most powerful, divine selves.
After going through these steps, I threw away the things I no longer wanted/needed and took them to the dumpster so they were no longer sitting in my home. I then drank a lot of water as I recommend to clients after a session because water assists with the energetic cleansing. It was so powerful for me.
When all was said and done in the process of tidying my home, all my things now had their own home. I was now surrounded by all the things that sparked joy in my life. I looked at my bookshelf and smiled at my favorite stories/inspiring information, I was no longer overwhelmed by stacks of old bills/papers, and I got a thrill as I opened my sock door and saw them all folded so nicely.
What I learned overall from the Marie Kondo method of tidying:
I learned to appreciate all things, all experiences, all people that have come and gone from my life.
Doing this created clarity on what I was searching for. It brought me feelings of peace and happiness and contentment in everything I’ve had all along.
This created space for new things to come into my life. We moved to Denver, and new opportunities and experiences just opened right up instantly and spontaneously with ease and flow and a feeling of “rightness”.
It opened my eyes to more and more and more energy fields.
It was a cleansing. An opportunity to truly process my past. The triumphs, the failures, the challenges, the memories.
I recommend Marie Kondo book to anyone, especially those I work with because it helps process and heal your past. If you truly want to physically and emotionally declutter your life, I can’t think of a better resource.
If you decided to tidy and declutter your life (which, again, I highly recommend), be prepared for a cleansing, healing, and eventual transformation. This may require support if you are not prepared for past pain to come up. I can help you. Please reach out with any questions, or just share with me your experience. I would love to hear from you!
So much love,